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I’m going to be completely honest here. These last few months have been *busy*. Between work, school, church, socializing, and planning a quick little elopement where I decided to crochet my dress, I have had a negative amount of time at the end of every week. That negative time was my blog time (and my eating time, and sleep, ooph, it has been a busy few months).
I have tailwind for the Goat and Lilac Pinterest account, which has made that nice an automated. As long as I put a few minutes into finding good posts every week, it stayed up to date.
I highly doubt you’re reading this for the back of house details of how I (didn’t really) keep it together behind the scenes. (Feel free to comment below for that, if you want to know). And I’m still gushing, so if you’ll indulge me, I’m gonna talk a bit about getting married.
The Crocheted Dress
I started to crochet my dress in September. It is the Chrysanthemum Gown by Chi Krneta with the train addition. (Not affiliate links). I used Aunt Lydia’s crochet thread in natural for it. (Affiliate link.) I would have liked to have found something more local with a more transparent supply chain, but I didn’t. The dress used over 3.000 yards of thread. I bought 4,000 before I started working on it. I finished about a week before I wore it; it took about five months! Nearly all of my spare time was spent working on this dress.
We tried to be really mindful of what we purchased. Our goal was to have all of our outfits come from ethical companies with transparent supply chains. We weren’t able to achieve that goal. Part of this was financial, we did not have the resources to commit to having everything be on the up and up in such a short amount of time. Part of it was the time crunch, we really only had about five months of planning. Another issue is our body shapes. I am a plus sized woman, it’s annoyingly difficult to find clothing which is ethical and / or sustainable in plus sizes. I’d argue it’s next to impossible to find items larger than a US 14. (And all of these are online. There was no place to try things on before purchasing.)
I needed a dress to wear under the one I made. It took me most of the five months to settle on something. I knew that I wanted to have wide tank straps, a full back, and have the dress come to my knees. I settled on this dress. (Affiliate link.) The bold color helped show off the motifs in the dress.
My partner opted to wear a vest, also found on Amazon after a long and fruitless search, a button down, and a pair of jeans. He decided to get a pair from Dearborn Denim, which is based in Chicago. (Not an affiliate link.) They pay fair wages, and source their materials state-side.
We both opted to wear boots. I had this idea of what the perfect boot would be. Ideally, they would be American, lace up, with a round toe, and a bit of a heel. I wasn’t able to find what I was looking for domestically. I found the (almost) perfect pair from this Etsy shop: KristinShoes. (Not an affiliate link.) They were priced fairly, took a few weeks in get in, and are amazingly comfortable.
My partner did find a wonderful pair of American made boots. He went with Thursday Boot Company. (Not an affiliate link.) He insists they are some of the most comfortable shoes he has ever owned.
We went with two sets of rings. We got a set of silicone rings for constant wear. Then, we got a set of bentwood rings for the ceremony and more special wear. I got a small silver band with a garnet in it for an “engagement” ring.
We both have jobs which require a lot of work with our hands. Which is why we decided to get two sets, as neither of us would be comfortable wearing a metal ring to work. The silicone ones are very comfortable and are way less risky.
Technically, we ran away for a week and eloped. We went down to Asheville, North Carolina, and had a private ceremony down on the river. We decided to not have *any* guests. It was just the two of us, the Reverend, and the photographer. (Plus one other person, as North Carolina requires two witnesses.)
We opted to have a simple ceremony. There was one reading, Vonnegut’s “If this isn’t nice, what is?” We wrote our own vows.
It was beautiful. Neither of us could have wished for something more perfect for us.
We spent the week in North Carolina. We made a huge effort to shop local.
Every restaurant we went to was locally owned. Most of the souvenirs we got were from local companies. (We both got shirts and post cards.) I did get a few things from a gift shop at a National Park.
Just being able to sleep in and go hiking for a few days was so wonderfully refreshing.
We are planning on having a reception, or a “We Got Hitched!” party in a few months.
I’m planning on calling it a reception. It’s my party and I’ll call it whatever I like. My boss did call this type of party a “chivalry”, but that seems oddly old fashioned.
I’ve been planning on keeping the planning for this more in the loop than for the ceremony. There are a lot of ways to make receptions more eco-friendly that we are discussing. As well as ways to keep things local, and ethical. Our goal is to have it be low-waste.
Back to Housekeeping
I am planning on getting a more reliable posting schedule from here on out. I’m hoping to get a backlog up and running, posting two to three times a week. I’ll be exploring what days work best for the content.
What was your wedding like? What would your ideal ceremony be like?
Questions or comments? Feel free to contact me.